Regular visitors to Male Pouch know that I’m a sucker for profile pics from fetish sites. I think that some of the most affecting pics are self pics, with the photographer/model having us — his audience — fully in mind during his session. For an exhib/voyeur, there’s nothing better.
I have a policy of asking permission to post profile pics where I’ll be the original source. A lot of guys are thrilled to have a larger audience for their efforts, and give instant approval. A minority, however, decline for a variety of reasons.
A moment ago, I got a reply from a hot guy who had one pic I lusted after. He thanked me for liking his pic, but said his bf didn’t know about his fetish, and he didn’t want the pic out there on the ‘net.

I don’t know how long he and his bf have been seeing each other, so I can’t speak directly to his situation. It’s perfectly normal to self-disclose to a new partner bit-by-bit.
But his reply did make me think of Dan Savage’s advice for a successful and fully sexual long-term relationship:
When two people marry, they're not only making a solemn vow to be there in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, but also to be complete and total whores for each other.
Dan’s idea of what it means to be whores for each other? — celebrate or at least allow each other’s desires, kinks, and fetishes. In terms of how to treat one’s husband, says Savage, “He's a wonderful man. He has needs. Meet 'em.”
The young man of whom I’d requested posting permission says that his bf doesn’t know about his fetish (a mild, if beautiful, one).
Makes me wonder if his bf might have one or more undeclared fetishes of his own. How about a fair trade?